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Lemme tell you, friend...

The fact that you’re here tells me a lot about you

in fact, you’re probably in the exact same place I was in 2014:
confused, burned out, and uncertain of what you’re truly meant to be doing in your career & life . . .

And if you’re anything like I was back then, you’re feeling this overwhelming sense that there’s more for you in this life and that how you’re currently living, well to be blunt, it isn’t it. But, you’re unsure about HOW you’re supposed to get there. How are you supposed to make the dream life when everything else is telling you how you “should” be doing life and all the ways you’re falling short.

Today, I’m a transformational life coach, empowering people around the world to discover not only their authentic careers, but their authentic lives – but back then I was earning funding and fellowships as a microbiology doctoral student. Yes, Microbiology…if you Google my name, some of the first things that come up are my publications in Reproductive Biology and Cancer Research. Uber nerd, I know…

Needless to say, the leap from biomedical researcher to coach was not a natural transition… So you’re probably wondering how I got from there to here.

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Let’s take it back for a moment…

to start, I was real good at following a plan
and doing what I “should” do.

Be a good student, get a scholarship, go to college, etc. But when it came to choosing my career path in life, it was different. My whole life, I’d gotten subtle hints about what a “real career” was. “What can you do with that degree?” was a common phrase in my house growing up. So, before I even started college, a lot of my passions were eliminated as potential careers. Music? Not realistic. Sports med and PT? Idk - it almost didn’t feel flashy enough. Writing? Ummmm starving artist route? No thanks.

So, I chose Microbiology…yeah, nerdy AF, but had always really enjoyed science and well, to be completely honest, it impressed people. So, I got my Bachelors in Microbiology, and spent from 18 to 24 working in research labs, doing experiments, making discoveries and publishing papers. My family loved asking me about how my research was going even if they didn’t quite understand why it was important to study sperm motility or retroviral gene therapy. Like I said, uber nerd here, friends!

I was confident in my skills and in my ability to succeed. That is until I get to my PhD program. And that confidence deteriorated into nothing and was replaced with fear, insecurity and imposter syndrome like I’d never felt before. I’d always been proud of my intelligence, but now? Not so much. Ten years into my career and not even 2 years into my PhD, I was struggling hard and, for the first time, I landed in therapy because of it at the insistence of my program director…

i had to do something for me…

because graduate school was dragging me into despair

I started with my health - something easy and something that I could control. As a former competitive soccer player, I knew I had an athlete buried deep within me that I’d lost. And I wanted her back. I wanted to feel strong…so I made every effort to give myself that gift. Health & fitness was my escape from lab and all the insecurity there. It made me feel confident again, even if it was confidence in something other than my brain…it was the thing I did for me. And I was all in.

Dabbling in health introduced me to coaching for the first time. And I loved it! I loved the accountability, the community, I liked that I was tapping into this whole other side of me that gave me another dimension outside of “scientist and PhD student.” I had began to feel so pigeon-holed by that label. So in the same way I threw myself into fitness, I threw myself into coaching too. But coaching threw a monkey wrench into my life, blowing my world and what I thought I wanted wide open. …

the more I coached, the more I realized I loved it…

but coaching was something I “shouldn’t” have wanted

I felt guilty and selfish because of the time and money that had been invested into a career and degree I didn’t want anymore. So I tried as hard as I could to pour myself into my PhD. I tried everything I could think of to find the joy again. I got involved in other clubs, I tried reconnecting with the friends I had pulled away from, I tried getting them involved in my coaching as much as possible, I tried entering a new training program and adding a facet to my dissertation that would give me more diversity in my every day activities. Literally - it felt like I tried everything for about 1.5-2 years. But the more I forced myself down the path that everyone was telling me I “should” be on, the more I tried my damndest to forget about coaching and just be a scientist because that’s what I “should” want, the harder it got to show up every day.

I didn’t feel like me. I was going through the motions in the truest sense of the phrase. I was checked out and one of my mentors even called me on it. But I was stubborn. And more than anything, I felt like leaving my PhD and doing something different would make me seem flakey, irresponsible and ungrateful. So I stuck it out.

And then, I hit an avalanche of low points. In May 2016, my grandpa passed away. He was the first significant family member that I had lost and I was distraught. Then, my parked car was hit and damaged while I was out-of-state at my Grandpa’s funeral, followed by a bicycling accident that left me with the first broken bone of my life. It was a summer of low points and hits that just kept on coming. But that wasn’t even the final straw. In August, I had the worst professional meeting of my life. As I stood up there, getting berated for things I had never been taught, being lectured at with no opportunity to even answer the questions I was being posed, I threw my hands up in the air. I was done. More done than I had ever been. I was 3000 miles away from home in a toxic, competitive environment doing something that I didn’t enjoy and that I didn’t feel like I was actually learning anything! What was the point? At that moment, I couldn’t do it anymore. I was done. So, in fall 2016, I quit my PhD…and my career in the process.

leaving my phd wasn’t easy…

but it’s been the best decision of my life! it was time to live for me...

I packed up my life in Michigan and with a great friend, I road tripped the USA on my way back home. In the months leading up to my big move, I managed to distract myself. With trips with friends, beer festivals and of course the epic USA road trip that led me home. Not to mention the $5000 I’d given to a company called Remote Year to travel with them for 12 months. These were all necessary distractions. But eventually, the fear and uncertainty I’d been dodging for so long caught up with me, and I felt like a complete fraud, disappointment and failure.

In those early months back in Seattle, I gave a lot of thought to the feedback I’d gotten from my friends, family and mentors. Many of them urged me to follow my gut and my heart toward coaching, which I had resisted all through my PhD, and to become a professional career coach. The idea intrigued the hell out of me! I loved personal growth, learning, growing and teaching others the things that I had learned! I loved seeing the epiphanies and aha moments of the hundreds of women I’d worked with in my fitness accountability groups. But how could I ever make that transition? How could I ever change my path like that? It sounded like way to bizarre of a change to make… and even if I got the courage to own it, naysayers be damned, I wasn’t sure how to make it happen. They don’t teach business in Biology programs, you know?!

I knew I needed to take massive action, so I went into debt for the first time in my adult like to hire a coach! And that coach empowered me to move forward, to go for it in ways that I never thought I would. My life was changed by that decision. She helped me overcome the disappointment and uncertainty I felt from realizing that my dream job wasn’t so dreamy, but also the fear of rejection and of disappointing the people in my life who’d invested so much in me as a scientist. But, more than anything, she helped me tap back into the confidence and clarity I’d lost along the way, and to level it up!

I reflected on the years I’d spent in graduate school as a student of high performance and personal growth. I realized all the skills that I learned - exercises to help me level up my clarity, emotional tools like understanding vulnerability, shame, how to improve my self-talk through self-compassion and so much more - and how teaching those skills to others gave me more fulfillment than anything I’d ever felt before. I realized that there was a method to my ability to juggle commitments, priorities and goals and that I could teach those skills too! And I realized that I could harness all that I’d learned, applied and fine-tuned in my life…and from that I created my 3 pillar coaching philosophy! And on a couch in Cordoba, Argentina, my business was born…

giving myself permission to change my path

has given me more fulfillment and joy than ever before
& I’ve seen my tools translate into success and massive results for others

I’m not confused anymore about who I am and what I offer the world. I’m not confused about the life I want to live or the kind of career I want to have. I was and am a coach. And I help people transform their lives…not just their careers, but their lives! We may start with career or health or time management like I have with so many clients in the past, but our goal is to transform your life! Because since I started, mine truly has as well…

I’ve created the The Growth Tribe Academy to help clients affordably invest in themselves and apply expert personal growth tools to create a life they f’ing love. CLICK HERE to learn more about it!

I’ve created my online courses, including Take Back Your Life, to help clients affordably to get clear on who are and what they want in life, get confident, and get organized AF so that they aren’t living in confusion and stuckness like I once was. CLICK HERE to learn more about it!

I’ve created Transformational 1-on-1 coaching to help clients level-up their life in the way my coach helped me level up mine, by helping me get crystal clear on who I was, where I was going and why I wanted to go there, to get confident and to create a lifestyle that support my goals. CLICK HERE to learn more about it!

I am so inspired every time someone new finds this website and says “yes” to investing in themselves. Whether I’m helping someone get clarity on the best career path or what they value and prioritize in life, helping them get health, helping them take their confidence back, or helping them beat down stress by getting more organized, I am exactly where I’m meant to be. I am doing exactly what I’m meant to do….

So, What About You?

are you ready to change your path?

cuz YOU DESERVE a life on your terms…
you’ve just gotta go for it!

 
 
 
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Philosophy & Values...

3 pillars of coaching…

create Clarity | build confidence | get organized af

Would you believe that my logo isn’t random at ALL? Of course, I’m obsessed with traveling, hiking and I truly believe that climbing mountains is a metaphor for life. There are always other summits to tackle and hot damn is it helpful to have a guide, especially if it’s a new path you’ve never walked before. Plus - and the nerd in me absolutely loves this - did you know that the triangle is the Greek symbol delta, which in math and science is the symbol for change! Change means transformation! Hell-to-the-yeah, friends! But the 3 mountains in my logo, most importantly represent something much more important to me and my coaching. They represent my 3 pillar coaching philosophy. I believe that the 3 things that so often hold us back in our lives are a lack of clarity, a lack of confidence and a lack of time!

CLARITY. There are so many messages coming into our lives about who we should be, what we should want, blah blah etc. That’s great and all, but what do YOU want?! That’s the first thing we’ll dig into - clarity in who you are, clarity in what you want in life, and last but not least clarity in what you want in your career.

CONFIDENCE. Because we can know what we want in life, but what if we don’t have the confidence to go for it, it’s not going to happen! We’re going to re-program that by leveling up your confidence from the emotional (think self talk - no more external validation necessary), physical and relational perspectives because all of these affect how we feel about ourselves and how likely we are to take action!

SYSTEMS. Because you can have all the clarity and confidence in the world, but if you don’t have any damn time to work on your dreams and goals! We’re going to get REAL clear on what priorities actually belong on your calendar, how to tap into your discipline and motivation, how to level up your productivity and so much more!

I believe to my very core that these are the 3 missing pieces for so many people…and I for one cannot wait to dig into them with you! Schedule a complimentary Transformation Call here!

my values…

growth | vitality | discipline | freedom | passion | authenticity